Mz Manners

You won't get this kind of advice from your mom and grandma.

Sunday, December 18, 2005

Ladies! Don't Trap Men by Getting Pregnant

Another dating tip for women from Mz Manners

  1. Men will never trust us if we continue to prove ourselves untrustworthy.
  2. Don't be selfish! You have to think of all the women out there trying find a man! Your actions really screw us.
  3. If you have to trap a man, he isn't yours anyway.
  4. Use fucking birth control!


  • At 2:55 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said…

    How am I supposed to catch myself a husband without getting pregnant first? I already convinced my new boyfriend that I'm allergic to condoms. Now what am I supposed to do?

    Single and Confused

  • At 3:27 PM, Anonymous Wanda said…

    This will make men trust us? What do they have to do for us to trust them?

    I really want to know!

  • At 8:11 AM, Blogger Mz Manners said…

    Dear Single and Confused,

    You can always act really needy, confused, and unable to handle your life without his help.

    Truly those are the best ways to land a husband.

    Then you can suddenly "discover" a brand of condoms to which you are not allergic.

    Good luck!

  • At 8:13 AM, Blogger Mz Manners said…

    Dear Wanda,

    Men will have to be trustworthy in order for us to trust them. I haven't seen it, but just like communism, we have to keep the dream alive.

  • At 4:37 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said…

    Dear Single and Confused:
    Anal sex.

  • At 11:35 PM, Blogger Mz Manners said…

    touche, anonymous, touche.

  • At 4:27 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said…

    I agree with if you HAVE to TRAP him, He's NOT yours anyways!!! Not only that it degrades all women by looking like the only things we need from a man is his money and a baby! Thus Baby= $$$. Not to mention what a looser you have be that the only thing you have to offer in a relationship is what's between your legs. Have women become so desperate and un empowered that we have to HAVE a man to in our lives or to support to be worth anything? I sure hope not. Women have more opportunities available to them and support for them to succeed than any other time in history. Let's try using our brains ladies instead of our uteruses. Women have had to FIGHT for the right to have birth control and abortion kept legal. Women had to FIGHT for the right to vote and attend college. Women have had to FIGHT for the right to have the same opportunities as men. These loosers who don't take advantage of all of these opportunities and instead would rather lay on their back and open their legs instead of a book get NO RESPECT from me!!!!!!!!!!!

  • At 1:00 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said…

    Trapping a man by becoming pregnant is a violation of is human rights. It's one of the most despicable things a woman can do to a man. He has the right to choose if and when to become a parent and has to trust the woman to be honest and open. It's quite right that he's not yours anyway, and, be prepared to bring up the child alone when he realises what a sly underhanded person you are. Children deserve parents who wanted them.

    Be a real woman and stop giving us all a bad name. And hinestly, being so desperate is so unattractive. Marriage is not the be all and end all, life has lots to offer.

  • At 10:31 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said…

    not to mention the effect it has on his family, his future partner and her family (if for instance, she was one of these decent women that wouldn't consider imposing such a life-change on someone else without their consent but still wanted kids of her own as the product of a healthy, long-term and beautiful relationship.) I've been burned by this one. True, he was an idiot and drunk, but from what I hear she was aching to have a kid with anyone who could support it.

  • At 2:24 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said…

    I have been in a very serious relationship with a wonderful man. One month into the relationship he dropped a bomb, he was having a baby with a woman he barley even knows. I was confused, angry, and I wanted answers.

    I drilled him with questions. Did you ever take her on a date? No. Tell me more about this woman, did she attend college? Where is she from? Where does she work? He could not answer these questions. He clearly never had a "relationship" with her. The only relations they had were a few drunk nights, she was an easy lay (sorry for being so blunt).

    She informed him that she was pregnant and he clearly freaked. She wanted to keep this child. My boyfriend informed her that he did not know her, he did not want to have a child with her, and he felt mislead because she told him she was on birth control.

    He made it clear that he would pay what he needed to pay, but he didn't want to be envolved in jointly raising a child with a woman he didn't know. She said that is fine, I dont want you involved anyway.

    au contrair.....She did want him involved. The phone calls, the emails and the random stop by's did not stop. When she was just 4 months pregnant she blogged "(His Name) is ignoring me and his son, what an a**hole." "I hope the only thing my son has from his father is his blue eyes and blonde hair" "I want to punch (his name) in the face right now" These were all on a public blog.

    When he broke this news to me, I did my own soul searching. I wanted him to do the RIGHT thing. He made a few mistakes, now he needed to take repsonsibility, right? I told him if he wanted to be with me, that he needed to atleast make an effort to be in this childs life once he (its a boy:)) is born. He is a wonderful amazing, loving man, and this child deserves to know him. He will add such value to his life.

    He was reluctant. In the eyes of the court, the only thing that matters is this child. Not the child in the womb. Once that baby is born, he needs to make his best efforts to show and exhibit he cares.

    And so... he did just that. He was there at the hospital the day after Baby B was born. He described the feelings that he experienced on this day. He said he felt like he was trapped in a bad dream, his stomach turned, just the sight of the woman holding the baby made him sick.

    She said the only way you will ever see this child is if you are with me. (What do you think this means? ) He went over to her mothers house(she lives with her mom because she is very young, no college education, she was not financially prepared to have a child to say the least). Anyway, my boyfriend hated going over to her Moms house the baby was too young to know what was going on, her mother and her made him feel uncomfortable. I advised him not to go if that was the case.

    So he stopped......Now the baby is 2 months, she refuses to let him watch Baby B while she is at work. (So who knows who is watching this child while she waits tables at night?) Yet, she blogs, "What father ignores his son" on her public blog. But what more can he do?

    All that matters right now is that Baby B is safe and he is being well taken care of. This woman is young and she seems misguided, but she is taking good care of him, and that is all that matters when he is so young.

    Baby B is also on my boyfriends Health Insurance (he was on medicaid before, and she had no plans on putting him on hers because I dont think she had health insurance).

    Anyway, this is my story.... or his story I should say....I love him & he has been handling this so well (as well as he can). We are getting through this! We hope to start our family once we are married within the next 3 years.

  • At 2:18 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said…

    I am so sick and tired of today's sleezy women. Television glamourizes teenage pregnancies to make it look like everything is wonderful. Today's women live too much in fantasy land, hoping and dreaming that the man of their dreams will sweep them off their feet, marry them, place them in a lavish home (white picket fence??), give them unlimited spending money so they can shop with their friends, have lunch at the bistro, tea parties and kiddie playdates. Wake up ladies!!! Doesn't anyone watch the news? The economy? I know a ton of women who purposely got pregnant with all intentions of trapping the man and when it failed, they stalked them, hounded them thru the courts for more child support, you name it and after all this, they have the nerve to wonder why he didn't come back to me?? So when that one didn't come back, it was back to shopping for a husband (i.e. financial benefactor). This explains why so many women have numerous kids from numerous men. Now what I don't understand is that this charade has been going on for decades and man has still not realized this, are stupid to believe the lame excuses of "oh, the doctor said I can't have children," or the "I'm on birth control." Gentlemen....wake up. Would you trust a woman to hold your wallet/money if they swore that they would never do anything unintentional?? Hell no you won't. So what's the difference? When will man assume some responsibility of using protection? You guys actually put yourselves in this situation. Yesm it takes 2 to make a baby, but I also don't feel that a man should be forced to support a child. I know so many women who make more collecting child support than I do from a working wage and funny though, not a cent is ever spent on the child. The mothers are decked out in name brand clothes, jewelry with the most expensive gadgets and the kids have nothing. I firmly believe that the government should change the law to give the men a say in the matter. If the woman chooses to keep the baby, then the man should be able to settle out of court for a flat rate, release all paternity and walk free and the woman will assume all financial responsibility. Today's women know how to shop for a man with the clear goal of forcing him to either marry her and if she cant have him, her next recourse is that she will get his money...via baby. I don't know who our government expects a man to shell out close to 1/3 of his pay and still have to support himself in today's economy and yet, women keep breeding and breeding with no thought as to how and/or who is going to support this child. It's all about money.

  • At 3:16 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said…

    yes men are stupid they get caught up with these younger girls(not women)who have baby Then she tries to have a baby with a married man and when he won't leave his wife say doesn't have the right to say she is a descent woman who does't deserve to be treated this way, but she tells him she married but only on paper. If she doesn't wanted to be treated like a whore, then don't be a whore. children are not dollar signs. manadory birth control who is favor?

  • At 10:10 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said…

    I'm all about personal rights but after finding out that somebody I love just got trapped by a girl I am starting to think that mandatory birth control without a signed legal document consenting to having a child is not a bad idea. This girl is so young and immature and it shows! She acts very needy and innocent which is a problem because soon she will be bringing a child into this world who will truly NEED all her attention. I hate her for putting a good man in this situation by lying and taking advantage of him. However, he is stepping up and taking responsibility for this child and is always taking into account it's well being and success even though it isn't here yet. He's a good man and I admire him for how he's handling this difficult situation. I'd also like to remind anybody who is doing this that it's a very slfish thing to do that doesn't take into account anybody else's feelings. THIS IS NOT LOVE much less true love! It is selfish and you should see a therapist if you're considering it.

  • At 5:24 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said…

    This just happened to me to, the heartache is unbearable. Ironically I am the one who sought therapy, even though the entrapment criminal probably needs it allot more then me. 4 months into the relationship his ex comes out of no where with a big bomb, the last time they hooked up,a month before he met me she "accidently" forgot her pills and OMG a miracle??!! only its not a miracle, its a sad desperate crime. I had no idea or of course I would never subject myself to the cross fires of the unhealthy situation. In all honesty the late night tears and stress will probably ruin our bond, to all the new better women out there, don't let the deceptive women win.hey don't deserve it. I tried to hang in there but the stress proved to be too much, the stories of the birth, the sadness, I really feel it should be considered legally a crime and there should be better options for men as well. I know they have a part in it, but it a really really sad situation for a child to be born into. The plot of course did not work, he did not love her just for the sake of the child, and our relationship, while promising to be a much more exciting, healthy bond then what they sort of had, will probably never get off the ground sadly. I felt so defeated, I am educated, ethical and would never do what she did yet in the end I get nothing, all from the unforgivable crime. I cant justify distracting him from a new born,and I cant help but think that deep in her broken psyche from that primal place of revenge, she took that into account, that idea that future bonds might be ruined. I pray karma does its thing, I cant be around to see it, its too much like a horror show.


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